I've had my fair share of seriously unhealthy relationships.
They say compromise is key... But what you compromise on is the real focus.
Your values shouldn't be compromised. Your value shouldn't be compromised. (No I didn't repeat myself read it again) You shouldn't expect or accept less in the name of compromise. The moment you do it's no longer compromise it's a chipping away at your dignity and self worth.
I can't count how many times I ended up being the "Tony Montana" (bad guy) all cause I wouldn't be okay with things that weren't okay with me.
Not to say that real love doesn't make you uncomfortable...real love does have it's growing pains... But those pains will not be in your heart...they won't be in the form of public humiliation... they won't be in the form of empty promises... They won't be in the form of lies.
Granted your partner will err...after all no one is perfect.
I used to say I only had 2 deal breakers... Cheat & Beat... Either one you're in the street.
But my how I've grown... After my last "bad romance" I learned that there are darker evils, much more sinister deal breakers than the two I held on to... The creeping slow type...
Ohhh the manipulation..
Here's one truth: Some spirits are broken ... Broken for good... And they just aren't satisfied until they think they've broken yours. You'll be able to spot a broken spirit cause the favorite excuse is ALL THEIR EXES are "crazy". It's the other person's fault they ain't never do nothing. (Double negative heaven)
Really all of them??? Cut it out.
Another big red flag on the play is LOYALTY...
This is a 2 way street.
The first time you REALLY need them and they let you hang.... LET THEM GO. No one who loves you would let you hang. PERIOD
Or are they showing you the same love, respect and kindness in public, around their friends, as they show you in private? Does it seem that only you know how much they love you? Lol it's cause they don't. Love is shouted from the rooftops!!! Love is shouted from ya droptop while it drip drops rain!
I'm here to tell you... It's okay to request that someone treat you right. I won't say "the way you think you deserve"... I won't say that because that's primarily the reason you accept what you should protest... You didn't think you deserved any better.
There's the lie... If you doing right you deserve right.... Right doesn't feel like a secret.. and right always feels like progress...
If they can't get it right it's time you left.
After all what is it that you're holding on to? An idea... An aspiration.. A dream. No what you're holding onto is
POISONOUS TOXIC ENERGY PERSONIFIED.
Let them go Brev
Let them go Sis
You deserve better
And it's out there. Out there uncompromisingly waiting on a loyal love like you and fighting to find you.
Alot of what I referenced was regards a romance but these principles extend and apply to any relationship.
Unhealthy energies can creep into any relationship including family and friends.
Beware of the energy you bring;
AND the energy you allow in your space.
Live
Love
Laugh
& Travel
