None of us are exempt from lifes challenges and discomforts. Our loved ones die, we get sick, our hearts get broken. These are life's inevitables. (Check your pulse of you haven't experienced at least 1 of the 3...seriously.)
You don't have much control in any of these situations. If someone passes away, (unless you murdered them) its not in your control. If you get ill, it's not in your control. If your heart is broken...again...not in your control.
To a measure you can prepare and take precautions to prevent these things. Those actions help but sometimes change nothing at all.
I'm in no way comparing the inevitables, they all have their own set of reactions. I want to focus on the reaction to heartbreak.
What a pain felt from heartbreak! Hell we almost feel sick or dying don't we? For some of us it takes time, therapy and lots of ice cream. Others of us are like a determined child...fall off, get right back up and try to ride again. Then, there are those of us who try to move on but internalize everything that happened and blame themselves.. I mean take on the burden of being the reason why something doesn't work out. I want to say to those types:
YOU AIN'T NO HALLE BERRY!
(stay with me)
She is a beautiful, accomplished, filthy stinking rich sex symbol. Unarguably, one the best in her field.. WHOSE ON HUSBAND NUMBER 3. Now I don't know Halle personally but what I do know is I have yet to meet a man, or woman for that matter, who won't agree that from any angle...in any light... in any movie, from Boomerang to The Call, this woman is a phenomenal. ( It's an understatement really!) Even she is not immune to lifes inevitables. But what does that tell you? Think about it.
What more could one need than to have the love of someone like her?
Apparently something. But, does their needs indicate a deficiency in her? Does your exes behavior signify a deficit in you?
No not all. It may feel at first you are to blame. You may think "Had I done this more..or that more..cooked more...dressed better."
If you loved them best you could and you know it... then know this too...Nothing you have done or didn't do would have changed the outcome.
True love is blind.. doesn't care if you can cook..or dress snazzy.
My point is don't take the wrap for it. Dont internalize it. Not only is it not your fault but it's also out of your control. We all possess free will. You can't make someone love you.
People reject God daily... and He is perfect in all HIS ways.
The reality is someone who can lie to you, cheat on you, hurt you, may not love you. And really do we expect them to? When it's clear those who have this type of appetite are usually insatiable... and suffering from a deep seated insecurity. They are champions at disguising this... And often get a sense of fulfillment from being desired, loved or even coveted.
Believe the almost unbelievable... ITS REALLY NOT YOU. IT'S THEM.
Also realize that it's part of life. Few and truly blessed are those who've never experienced a broken heart. But most are not immune... Not me, not you, none of us...
If it can happen to Halle Berry...it can happen to you...(No shade buuuuut) YOU AIN'T NO HALLE BERRY.
